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The True Source of Negative Emotions<\/strong><\/h1>\n

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Pop quiz!<\/h3>\n

Q: What\u2019s another word for the desire to be happy? A: Love<\/i>. And since you probably aced that test question, you\u2019ll recall that the desire to be free from suffering is also known as compassion<\/i>.<\/a> And, since you\u2019ve been paying attention, by now you likely understand that every time you stand in front of the open fridge trying to decide what you want, every time you fall in love or send an emoji or shop for cat food \u2014 indeed, in everything you do \u2014 you\u2019re seeking happiness. As for the desire to be free from suffering, to protect yourself from pain and harm, that\u2019s equally omnipresent.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”1\/12″ lms_has_clearfix=”0″ offset=”vc_col-lg-2 vc_hidden-xs”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row u_row_style=”1″ lms_row_has_bk_offset=”1″ lms_row_bk_columns_offset=”0″ u_row_enrollment_restriction=”0″][vc_column lms_has_clearfix=”0″][vc_single_image image=”106917″ img_size=”full” alignment=”center” css=”.vc_custom_1662718587276{padding-top: 30px !important;padding-bottom: 30px !important;}” el_class=”hidden-xs”][vc_single_image image=”106918″ img_size=”full” alignment=”center” css=”.vc_custom_1662718607943{padding-top: 30px !important;padding-bottom: 30px !important;}” el_class=”visible-xs”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row u_row_style=”1″ lms_row_has_bk_offset=”0″ lms_row_bk_columns_offset=”0″ u_row_enrollment_restriction=”0″][vc_column width=”1\/12″ lms_has_clearfix=”0″ offset=”vc_col-lg-2 vc_hidden-xs”][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”5\/6″ lms_has_clearfix=”0″ offset=”vc_col-lg-8″][vc_column_text el_class=”subtittle-open-post” css=”.vc_custom_1673373318278{padding-bottom: 40px !important;}”]<\/p>\n

Skill is the issue<\/h3>\n

Unfortunately, in our ignorance, we don\u2019t always act on these desires to be happy and free from suffering in a skillful way. When we\u2019re confronted with things that scare us or rattle our cages, we immediately react with aversion. Feeling jealousy, hatred, or other painful emotions<\/a>, we desperately want to annihilate the source of the problem, and express ourselves with aggression or even violence. Similarly, we often bring this honking lack of skillfulness to our desire to be happy, seeking happiness in people, places, and things that are mainly notable for their inability to bring us anything of the sort. These habits can be very deeply embedded in us, even though they don\u2019t serve us well.<\/p>\n

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The point to remember<\/h3>\n

Although their true essence is rooted in love and compassion, these impulses, when they are so distorted, can really cause harm to ourselves to others. You can surely think of a million examples of this kind of unskillful behavior in other people, some of it really extreme. The daily news certainly is chock-full of examples. Maybe, if you put your mind to it, you can even think of a few instances when you acted in a way that was, shall we say, less than wonderful. However, whether you\u2019re looking at your own life or somebody else\u2019s, it is really important to understand that although the behavior might be spectacularly lacking in skillfulness, the underlying motivation is always a heartfelt impulse toward well-being and protection from harm. Integrating and absorbing this truth is one of the keys to understanding your true nature.<\/a>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”1\/12″ lms_has_clearfix=”0″ offset=”vc_col-lg-2 vc_hidden-xs”][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row u_row_style=”1″ lms_row_has_bk_offset=”1″ lms_row_bk_columns_offset=”0″ u_row_enrollment_restriction=”0″ lms_row_bk_offset_section_classes=”bk-qoute-full”][vc_column][vc_column_text]\u201cThe more we recognize awareness, the more access we have to our own loving qualities.\u201d<\/span>[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text el_class=”autorquotepost”]\u2013 Mingyur Rinpoche \u2013[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row u_row_style=”1″ lms_row_has_bk_offset=”0″ lms_row_bk_columns_offset=”0″ u_row_enrollment_restriction=”0″][vc_column width=”1\/12″ lms_has_clearfix=”0″ offset=”vc_col-lg-2 vc_hidden-xs”][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”5\/6″ lms_has_clearfix=”0″ offset=”vc_col-lg-8″][vc_column_text el_class=”icon-tittle-post”]<\/p>\n

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Compassionate Wisdom <\/b><\/h3>\n

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